Status Anxiety Workshop

6-week group coaching program to rewire your social-comparison response

Weekly Goals and Recordings

  1. Know why our brain creates life-or-death feelings about social comparison.
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  2. Discover your unique individual social-comparison pathways.
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  3. Build the skill of noticing your social-comparison response as it occurs.
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  4. Design a preferred response to status games and a reward structure to motivate it.
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  5. Trouble-shoot challenges after a week of implementing your plan.
  6. A month later, explore challenges and celebrate wins.In the month between Sessions 5 and 6, you are invited to make two email inquiries and I will respond individually. You will start to see yourself relaxing amidst the status games that swirl around you. 

Status frustrations can mar a good life. Fortunately, we can learn to rewire the status anxiety that our mammal brain creates. These six zoom sessions lead you step-by-step to notice your brain’s response to social comparison and replace it. The $299 fee includes individual support plus a copy of my two books on the topic, Status Games: Why We Play and How to Stop and I, Mammal: How to Make Peace With the Animal Urge for Social Power. Enroll in the workshop starting October 11 (at noon New York time) with payment here. You can stop feeling undervalued.

Our brain rewards us with serotonin when we get recognition. This is not what you’ve heard about serotonin, but monkey studies revealed this uncomfortable truth in the 1980s. (More on my serotonin page.) Social recognition is a life-or-death matter when we’re born, and early experience builds the wiring that interprets later experience. Each brain longs to be special in a world where 8 billion others long to be special. Disappointment triggers cortisol, so status disappointments can easily fill a good life with cortisol. But you can learn to redirect your brain from threat chemicals to reward chemicals.

You may say you don’t care about status, but when you see someone get ahead, a bad feeling turns on. You may say you only care about the greater good, but when your ideals don’t bring recognition, a bad feeling turns on. You may think people are judging you, but you don’t notice the judging that comes from inside you. Why not update the neural pathways that create these responses? Social comparison will always be a thing, but you can stop fueling it with stress chemicals.

This workshop is for all mammals regardless of demographic category or philosophical belief. No fingers are pointed in any direction. We’re all mammals, but anyone can find their power to redirect their brain from threat to opportunity.

The next workshop begins on October 11 at noon New York time. Secure your spot with $299 payment at https://www.paypal.me/lbreuning. Then send an email with your preferred book format (paper, ebook, audio) and a two-sentence bio to [email protected].

Get on the waiting list for future sessions by emailing: [email protected]. An Asia-friendly time will be offered when six people are interested. (noon Sydney Australia time on a Saturday)

Questions? Email me: [email protected]

Learn more about nature’s status and social-comparison impulse:

on my Substack:  #1   #2

on my reading list

on my podcast

 

 

Get Your 5-Day Happy Chemical Jumpstart

You can enjoy more dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphin when you know what turns them on. You will receive one email on each of the happy chemicals, and one email on how to rewire the neural pathways that turn them on and off. You will learn to rewire yourself for more happy chemicals in 45 days.

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