I, Mammal: make peace with the animal urge for social power
About the book
An animal who gets respect can spread its genes, and natural selection built a brain that rewards you with the good feeling of serotonin when you get respect. Our brain seeks respect and attention as if your life depends on it because serotonin makes it feel good. Whatever worked in your youth built neural pathways that tell you where to expect it today.
But serotonin is quickly metabolized and you have to do more to get more. This is why we mammals are so eager for social power and feel so threatened by minor obstacles to social power. This book helps you make peace with your inner mammal to feel good without an endless quest for “junk status.”
Mammals live in groups for protection from predators, but group life is frustrating. Higher-status individuals end up with better mating opportunity and foraging spots. You are not trying to spread your genes, but natural selection built a brain that rewards you with a good feeling when you do things that promote your genes. Our appetite for status is as natural as our appetite for food and sex. This is why “junk status” gets people’s attention. This book shows you how to enjoy serotonin without the frustrations of an endless quest for social power. You may say you’re “against status,” but if you filled a room with people who said that, a status hierarchy would soon form based on how hard each person insists. You would never think this in words, but the mammal brain works with neurochemicals instead of words.
Your neurochemical ups and downs make sense when you know how social power promotes survival in the animal world. Nothing is wrong with us. We are mammals. We work hard to restrain these urges, and we can celebrate how well we do with the mental equipment we’ve got instead of focusing on our flaws. The mammal brain evolved to promote survival through social alliances. It equips a mammal to live alongside stronger and weaker individuals. It constantly compares itself to those around it. If it sees itself in the position of weakness, it releases cortisol (“the stress chemical”), which motivates it to hold back to avoid conflict. If it sees itself in the position of strength, it releases serotonin and yields to the impulse to meet its needs. We humans feel this dynamic constantly, which is why we have so many words for it: ego, competitiveness, pride, respect, one-upping, self-confidence, attention-seeking, social dominance, arrogance, social-climbing, assertiveness, manipulative, ambitious, oppositional.
We can finally make sense of our hybrid brain thanks to an accumulation of research in animal science and neuroscience. It’s not easy being mammal! The urge for social power is easy to see in others, especially your social rivals. It’s hard to accept in yourself and your social allies. You can wire yourself to stimulate your serotonin without being a “jerk.” When you understand your inner mammal, you can learn to relax about your social position instead of being a prisoner of “junk status.” What a relief!
Habits of a Happy Brain: Retrain Your Brain to Boost Your Serotonin, Dopamine, Oxytocin, and Endorphin Levels
About the book
An animal who gets respect can spread its genes, and natural selection built a brain that rewards you with the good feeling of serotonin when you get respect. Our brain seeks respect and attention as if your life depends on it because serotonin makes it feel good. Whatever worked in your youth built neural pathways that tell you where to expect it today.
But serotonin is quickly metabolized and you have to do more to get more. This is why we mammals are so eager for social power and feel so threatened by minor obstacles to social power. This book helps you make peace with your inner mammal to feel good without an endless quest for “junk status.”
Mammals live in groups for protection from predators, but group life is frustrating. Higher-status individuals end up with better mating opportunity and foraging spots. You are not trying to spread your genes, but natural selection built a brain that rewards you with a good feeling when you do things that promote your genes. Our appetite for status is as natural as our appetite for food and sex. This is why “junk status” gets people’s attention. This book shows you how to enjoy serotonin without the frustrations of an endless quest for social power. You may say you’re “against status,” but if you filled a room with people who said that, a status hierarchy would soon form based on how hard each person insists. You would never think this in words, but the mammal brain works with neurochemicals instead of words.
Your neurochemical ups and downs make sense when you know how social power promotes survival in the animal world. Nothing is wrong with us. We are mammals. We work hard to restrain these urges, and we can celebrate how well we do with the mental equipment we’ve got instead of focusing on our flaws. The mammal brain evolved to promote survival through social alliances. It equips a mammal to live alongside stronger and weaker individuals. It constantly compares itself to those around it. If it sees itself in the position of weakness, it releases cortisol (“the stress chemical”), which motivates it to hold back to avoid conflict. If it sees itself in the position of strength, it releases serotonin and yields to the impulse to meet its needs. We humans feel this dynamic constantly, which is why we have so many words for it: ego, competitiveness, pride, respect, one-upping, self-confidence, attention-seeking, social dominance, arrogance, social-climbing, assertiveness, manipulative, ambitious, oppositional.
We can finally make sense of our hybrid brain thanks to an accumulation of research in animal science and neuroscience. It’s not easy being mammal! The urge for social power is easy to see in others, especially your social rivals. It’s hard to accept in yourself and your social allies. You can wire yourself to stimulate your serotonin without being a “jerk.” When you understand your inner mammal, you can learn to relax about your social position instead of being a prisoner of “junk status.” What a relief!
Top reviews
This is a great book in order to gain deeper perspectives to our feelings and thoughts. I was able to make sense of many of the behaviours I observe both in myself and others. As a person in love with behavioral neuroscience, I really enjoyed connecting the dots between us as homo sapiens and our ancestors.
Awesome! Thank you, Thank you, Ms. Breuning! Ms. Breuning’s insights expressed in “I, Mammal” are on par with the most influential evolutionary psychologists. Progress in psychology and related fields have been sorely slow and excessively abstract with limited practicality.
It is a great entry gate to topics such as “what makes us happy”, because it is scientific, it explains our biology and gives a direct approach to the question : culture vs nurture. It goes even further by saying : both and none.
Top reviews
This is a great book in order to gain deeper perspectives to our feelings and thoughts. I was able to make sense of many of the behaviours I observe both in myself and others. As a person in love with behavioral neuroscience, I really enjoyed connecting the dots between us as homo sapiens and our ancestors.
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